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adamwl12
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Posted 4:23 pm, 06/08/2024
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You are not Unwanted. Just hold on a little longer. Help is on the way.
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tribune
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Posted 4:11 pm, 06/08/2024
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Summer, I don't intend to be flip, but this is the last place on earth I would ever reveal the problems you have to contend with. If you have a longtime friend that you can trust to listen and not comment unless asked spill your guts, cry on their shoulder and be perfectly honest with them. Steer clear of preachers and anyone with a religious agenda, they prey on people (and that is not a pun) who are vulnerable. I'll be thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way.
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Hepsibah
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Posted 3:28 pm, 06/08/2024
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summerday, you asked whether you are wrong in being hurt. No, you are not wrong. Your feelings are not right or wrong, they are just HOW YOU FEEL. It's good that you can acknowledge feeling hurt. Consider telling your daughter how you feel and ask why you were not included.
Conversations with your husband about his attitude/behavior might be helpful. If he takes no responsibility, you might consider meeting with a counselor to fully express yourself. If he would engage in counseling with you, that would be a good sign that your marriage is important to him also. I think talking with a professional would be a positive step with or without him.
I'm sorry you are unhappy. It doesn't need to permanent. Reaching out for help is always a good thing.
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antithesis
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Posted 3:20 pm, 06/08/2024
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You're talking about two different problems...
Your husband... first, are you sure that he's the one that changed? What are his actual complaints? I'm guessing that you're near 70, so you've been having hormonal changes for awhile that can affect you.
Life is short, and you need to be happy. Do you think you would be happier alone than with him?
Medicare Part B covers 80% of the cost of marriage counseling. You might tell him that you feel this way, and if he doesn't agree to counseling then you are going to leave. There's no need to fight about it, he can either choose A or B.
Your daughter... remember that she's a lot younger than you, and they probably have jobs and their own problems. You are retired and are basically free to do whatever you want, whenever you want, and you can sit and talk on the phone for hours if you want! But she doesn't have that freedom. Think back to how you were at her age... how much free time did you have?
I know it can be awfully boring and lonely as a senior! I spent as much time as I could with my mom, but she was still lonely and depressed all the time. But you can't expect your daughter to be your crutch, she has her own life.
Have you considered joining the senior center to make friends? Or maybe volunteering at some places like Samaritan's Kitchen?
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GoNC
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Posted 3:18 pm, 06/08/2024
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I removed a few posts for trolling and personal attacks (all from one user), along with the replies to those posts. Please don't feed the trolls!
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summerday
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Posted 3:08 pm, 06/08/2024
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Please be considerate if you answer . I am going through some things now that I don't know how to handle. I'm a senior and have been married for 53 years. I have never been this unhappy. I don't want riches just a home with a husband that loves me. I know I have many faults and have made too many mistakes in my life and Lord knows I would redo them if I could. I'm only human. But my husband has changed in the past few years that really hurt. I can't talk to him..it's his way or no way .But it's all my fault. Is it just me? Another thing came up about my daughter. I asked if you and her family would go with me to an event to watch a family member graduate. I was told her husband had to work that day and she doubted they would go. I talked to her the day of the event (just casual to see how they were doing) and she told me they had to hurry home to get ready to go to the event. Never even mentioned me. I know some people will say something smart but that really hurt me. Am I wrong in being hurt?
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